Non-Binary

"My child tells me they are non-binary.

What does that mean?"


When a parent is told by their child that they are non-binary, there are often many questions about what that means. The first suggestion is to ask your child what it means to them.

Non-binary, or gender fluid, children may self-identify as they/them, or they/she, or they/he, or she/they/he and so on. Some individuals feel neither she nor he. For others, it depends on how they feel in the moment, or that day, and so on. The children will figure out how they genuinely feel in order to be their authentic selves.

Non-binary people do not necessarily consider themselves as "transgender."

The British spelling (non-binary) is used on this site.

 NON-BINARY SECTIONS

Dictionary Definition & Spelling of Non-Binary  vs  Nonbinary

 

Terminology

 

Websites & Blog Sites by or about Non-binary People

Gender Identity  VS  Gender Expression  VS  Anatomical Sex  VS  Sexually Attracted To  VS  Romantically Attracted To  --​​-  InfographicsI

Articles & Single Blog Entries

 

Non-Binary -- Related Books:

    -- Children's books

     -- Adult books

 

Videos, Ted Talks, Podcasts, TV, Film Documentaries

Support Groups & Sites for Partners of Trans & Non-Binary People

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DICTIONARY DEFINITION & SPELLING

 

Oxford Dictionary – British spelling

non-binary / adjective

-- denoting or relating to a gender or sexual identity that is not defined in terms of traditional binary oppositions such as male and female or homosexual and heterosexual

Merriam-Webster Dictionary – American spelling

non-binary / adjective

-- relating to or being a person who identifies with or expresses a gender identity that is neither entirely male nor entirely female

 

First Known Use of nonbinary:  1863

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TERMINOLOGY

auncle, ommer, ontle: gender-neutral aunt/uncle terms

By Jed. May 2018.

Suggestions are given.

A brief history of singular ‘they’
Oxford English dictionary (OED). (UK)

 

​Gender neutral: Aunt/Uncle

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog.  Jan 2020.

 

Gender neutral language in English (list)
Wikipedia (nonbinary wiki). (US)
Incredible list of nonbinary terms.

Gender neutral terms to address a group (poster)
A poster @sara_levine created for her grade 4 students went viral after she posted it on Facebook. (US)

 

​Gender neutral/queer titles

By Gender Queeries

Great list of ideas for gender-neutral “family”, ”relationship”, “official”, as well as miscellaneous titles. Their site also has numerous other categories of gender neutral names.

 

Gender queer/neutral pronouns

By Gender Queeries

Handy guide to pronouns
By Rainbow Coalition of Yellowknife. Poster.

How to be human: Talking to people who are transgender or nonbinary
“Their gender isn’t your call to make.”
Written by Healthline Editorial Team. (US)

 

​Intersex: When a baby isn’t quite boy or girl
By Raina Delisle. March 28, 2018  (Canadian)

“Being intersex is almost as common as having red hair, yet no one ever talks about it. Here’s one family’s story of raising an intersex child”

Non-binary identity
By Alex Simon for GRS Montreal blog TransAvenue. Blog posted Feb 2020. Montreal, QC.
“Non-binary is a term for individuals who do not feel solely male or female. We have the unique quality of being so vastly different from each other, each person having multiple dimensions and nuances to their personality, sense of self and expression. Yet, from biological and sociological perspectives alike, it would be overly simplistic to assume that one’s gender identity can without exception be categorized as man or woman.”

Non-binary students and pronouns: A guide for public school educators

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog.  Oct 2020

“Thank you for taking the time to read what follows. For many people, the increasing visibility of non-binary persons and the accompanying language can seem overwhelming. However, when you help create a climate that respects marginalized students, studies have shown that all students feel safer and respected.”

Non-binary terms

By Liz Dyer, Serendipitydodah – Home of the Mama Bears, Sep 2020.

Tons of optional non-binary terms!

“Here is a helpful list of non-binary terms. Many of these terms were gathered by crowdsourcing LGBTQ people. Of course this isn’t a comprehensive list. If you have suggestions, know of other terms or have requests let us know in the comments.: Here is a helpful list of non-binary terms. Many of these terms were gathered by crowdsourcing LGBTQ people. Of course this isn’t a comprehensive list. If you have suggestions, know of other terms or have requests let us know in the comments.”

 

Non-binary “they” and style guides

“The current (May 2020) state of the rules.”

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog.  May 2020.

 

​Nonbinary identities and labels

By Meaghan Ray. Let’s Talk Gender Podcast. Season 2, Episode 1. Oct 2021

“To start off Season 2, I will be talking about nonbinary identities and labels. We talk about this, in Season 1: Episode 1: Language and Labels, but this time I’ll focus specifically on non-binary identities and labels. “

 

​Singular nonbinary ‘they’: Is it ‘they are’ or ‘they is’?
By Merriam-Webster Dictionary. More explanation. (US)

 

​Trans-friendly pronouns: An infographic

​By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog. Infographic last revised Jan 16, 2021.

Graphic is named “A teacher’s guide to trans-friendly pronouns: Why is this important?

“I designed this for teachers who prefer a visual summary of the key ideas on pronoun use for transgender and nonbinary students. I also have longer text-based pieces for those who want more details:  'Non-binary students: Non-binary ‘they’ and style guides', and 'Non-binary students and pronouns'. "

Trans wisdom: Language is important

“Pronouns are for everyone.”

By Meaghan Ray. Purple and Green and the Life In Between blog post. April 2021.

 

Unisex and gender-neutral names

By Gender Queeries. (A-Z list)

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ARTIST CREDIT:  u/FrogginBullfish

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ALBERTA-SPECIFIC SUPPORT

Trans and Nonbinary Pals of YEG

"Hello and welcome to Trans and Nonbinary Pals of Edmonton and area!!

💖💖💖💖💖💖  We are an inclusive group that is cis-free. The group was created because we felt there wasn't a place for trans and nonbinary people to huddle together to survive living in Alberta. This group is for socializing and sharing advice. (please check the announcements after you join!)"

Pride Corner on Whyte

Pride Corner on Whyte

Private Facebook page. Pride Corner space on Whyte Avenue in Edmonton is monitored by adults.

In May 2022 the City of Edmonton officially proclaimed the corner of 104 Street and Whyte Ave "Pride Corner" after support from the Strathcona Business Association, and 10,000 signatures received in support.

Click to read the ARTICLE by Pamela Young, an Edmonton freelance writer, about the history of Pride Corner, published April 18, 2022 in Xtra e-magazine.

" 'Pride Corner on Whyte' envisions an Edmonton where every member of the LGBTQ family (plus local businesses) can safely be on Whyte Avenue without fear and without subjection to homophobic street preachers.

   For over 10 years, street preachers have stood on their milk crate with their microphone and 'preached' their messages. It is homophobia disguised as bible quotes.

   It is long past time to reclaim the space on the corner of 104th street and Whyte and have it be known as 'Pride Corner'. A growing group of counter protestors have made it their calling to stand on 104th and Whyte to fight the good fight."

"Xtra is an online magazine and community platform covering LGBTQ2S+ culture, politics and health. We aim to break boundaries, think outside of binaries and build bridges within our communities and beyond."

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​Gender Identity 

vs  Gender Expression 

​​​vs  Anatomical Sex 

vs  Sexually Attracted To 

vs  Romantically Attracted To 

INFOGRAPHICS and ARTWORK

Gender Unicorn
Trans Student Educational Resources. Infographic.

Genderbread Person v.4.0

Created by Sam Killerman. Infographic.

“A teaching tool for breaking the big concept of gender down into bite-sized, digestible pieces"

Click to see all Resources for the Genderbread Person including poster, worksheet, graphics.

Click for French version.

Click HERE for info regarding Sam's book "A guide to gender: The social justice advocate's handbook (2017),

 

​​The identity-bread person
By Rainbow Coalition of Yellowknife. Infographic.  (Canada)
A graphic similar to the Genderbread Person and the Gender Unicorn.

 

Degendering your language: An infographic

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog.  Infographic. Revised Jan 2021.  

“I designed this for teachers who prefer a visual summary of the key ideas on degendering language. I also have longer text-based pieces for those who want more details: 

* Non-binary students: Non-binary ‘they’ and style guides.

* Non-binary students and pronouns.

Froggin' BullFish

Artist. On Reddit at uFroggin'Bullfish.

Froggin' Bullfish  /  u/FrogginBullfish_

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ARTIST CREDIT:  FrogginBullfish

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WEBSITES. FACEBOOK GROUPS. BLOG SITES.

by or about non-binary people

See also VIDEOS, TED TALKS, PODCASTS, TV, FILM, DOCUMENTARIES section below.

Bein’ Enby      (blog)

By Clio Hartzer's blog site. (US)

“Reflections and opinions on nonbinary and genderqueer issues“

​Experiences of a parent
2018- . Blog site. (US)
“This is a blog, written by a parent of a newly-out transgender youth. It was originally composed to an audience of coworkers, to help them understand the dynamics of the decision and the issues that were potentially to come.”

Gender Creative Kids              (* July 2022 - website appears to be down)
In both English and French.  (Quebec)

Section for parents & guardians:   https://gendercreativekids.com/targets/parents

Section for allies of trans youth and their families:   https://gendercreativekids.com/targets/allies

Frequently asked questions:   https://gendercreativekids.com/faq

Resources:   https://gendercreativekids.com/resources

'I just feel like myself': A nonbinary child and their family explore identity

By Martha Bebinger, April 2021.

“ ’How did you feel when you first realized that I was a boy-girl?’ asks Hallel, now age 9.”

 

Impacts of strong parental support for trans youth

TransPULSE. Oct 2012. Booklet.   (Toronto, ON)

A report prepared for Children’s Aid Society of Toronto and Delisle Youth Services.

LifeOutsideTheBinary – Nonbinary Transgender Information Centre
“LifeOutsideTheBinary is a resource centre for nonbinary people and their allies.

We focus on: Providing resources to nonbinary people and youth, including coming out, medical support, legal information, general information about pronouns and identities, safety resources, language and advocacy resources – we want this to be a hub of information for anything that could be helpful to nonbinary people. // Nonbinary visibility – generally just posting things by and for nonbinary people and interests. // Support for friends and family – there is a section of educational resources for friends and family of nonbinary transgender people. // Q&A – answering questions by nonbinary people and people who want to know about nonbinary people // Being a safe and inclusive space.”

 

​NB Resource

NonBinary Resource website. Blog site. (US)
A source of numerous archived blogs on being nonbinary.

Parents of non-binary children: Support and education group

Private Facebook group. Contact Robyn McLean on her Facebook page to request to join: https://www.facebook.com/robyn.mclean.71

"This group is an education and support group for parents of non-binary children. Please answer the 3 membership questions when you request to join.  The goal of this group is to work toward total family, friend, and cultural acceptance of non-binary individuals.

    This group provides a safe space for parents to learn what their child is experiencing, process their own emotions, and develop ways to be a greater ally.

    We meet people where they are in their journey and gently guide them toward embracing their child for their authentic self.

    We do not tolerate people saying bigoted things, but we do encourage people to work through their normal, natural reactions, questions, and learning. Parents who have been at this longer will answer questions and help reframe issues so that parents feel supported on their journey to becoming authentically supportive of their children.

    There are many great groups that include non-binary helpers or teachers. We encourage all of our members to join those groups also. This group Is for parents only."

Purple and green and the life in between
By Meaghan Ray. Blog. (and podcasts) (Alberta)
Let’s Talk Gender Podcasts, and blog (Purple and Green and the Life In Between) about being gender queer/non-binary, having a partner who transitions, and musings about the gendered aspects of society.”

Supporting trans & nonbinary loved ones: What would you do? Recording & training toolkit

By Pflag National (US)

Video training session.

"As people who are transgender and nonbinary become more visible, the need to have educated and engaged allies to support them becomes greater. In this session, we’ll review the core learnings for people who want to be allies to their trans and nonbinary friends and family and then put what they’ve learned to work, navigating real-world interactions. Here’s your chance to strengthen and demonstrate your skills as an ally!"

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ARTICLES & SINGLE BLOG ENTRIES

(unless otherwise noted)

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7 Ways to support a friend who’s non-binary

​By Jay Polish. 2019.  (US)

"Your best pal or colleague or parent has just come out to you as non-binary. Maybe they're stoked to tell you, and maybe they're terrified. Either way, you want to do everything you can do to support your nonbinary friend.

      So when someone close to you comes out as non-binary, agender, or genderqueer, listen to the words they're using. They're trying to tell you that they identify with something outside the gender they've been assigned at birth, and oftentimes, they want the pronouns people use to refer to them to match that difference. Here are seven ways you can show your person that you care about them and respect everything about who they are."

9 Things people get wrong about being non-binary

There's no such thing as "looking non-binary"

By Suzannah Weiss.  Feb 15, 2018.

12 Ways parents can show support for their nonbinary kids

"Advice to parents of nonbinary youth from someone who has been there"

Guest writer Oakley Phoenix (they/them). Posted June 3, 2021.

“When I finally officially came out to my mom over the 2019–20 winter break, she had questions, but she didn’t boot me out of the house—which is a low bar, I’ll admit. Now that my mom and I have each had months of conversations, heart-to-hearts, individual therapy, and support group sessions, I feel prepared to provide advice to parents of newly out nonbinary youth and young adults.”

Articles for parents to read

Nonbinary Resource.  List.  (US)

Beyond the gender binary
By Alok Vaid-Menon. Book. June 2020.
“In Beyond the Gender Binary, Alok Vaid-Menon challenges the world to see gender not in black and white, but in full color. Taking from their own experiences as a gender-nonconforming artist, they show us that gender is a malleable and creative form of expression. The only limit is your imagination.”

Do you have any articles for parents to read on non-binary?

NonBinary Resource. 

Site is no longer updated, but has lots of good information. (US)

Educating parents of non binary kids

Private Facebook parenting group.  (US)

“A group for parents who have non binary children to come and learn from actual non binary people. This group is a growth and educating zone. You may be challenged on things, so be aware. We have non binary adults in the group that are here to help and answer questions! Please keep in mind that they are here for the benefit of your kids more than anything. What gets said in this group might save the relationship you have with your child, and could even save their life.“

https://www.facebook.com/groups/parentsofnonbinarykids/

 

Frequently asked questions

NonBinary Resource website. (US)

Site is no longer updated, but has lots of good information.

A guide to being an ally to transgender and nonbinary youth
By The Trevor Project.   (US)
“...is an introductory educational resource that covers a wide range of topics and best practices on how to support transgender and nonbinary people.”

 

How to be human: Talking to people who are transgender or nonbinary
"Their gender isn’t your call to make"
Written by Healthline Editorial Team. Updated April 26, 2019. (US)

How to reprogram yourself out of binary gendered thinking
By Meaghan Ray. Purple and Green and the Life In Between blog post. 2020. (Alberta)
“Strategies you can use to reprogram yourself away from seeing the world through the lens of the gender binary and build yourself a new, clearer lens that is at least gender neutral, if not gender expansive.”

How to they/them: A visual guide to nonbinary pronouns and the world of gender fluidityBy Stuart Getty. Book.  2020.“What does nonbinary really mean? What is gender nonconforming? And isn’t they a plural pronoun? In this charming and disarming guide, a real-life they-using genderqueer writer unpacks all your burning questions in a fun, visual way. No soapboxes or divisive comment-section wars here! Sometimes funny, sometimes serious, always human, this gender-friendly primer will get you up to speed. It's about more than just bathrooms and pronouns–this is about gender expression and the freedom to choose how to identify. While they might only be for some, that freedom is for everyone!”

How will I be a parent as a nonbinary person?
“Parenting seems hard enough when you’re cisgender”
By Danny Jackson H. May 2020.  (US)

'I just feel like myself': A nonbinary child and their family explore identity

By Martha Bebinger. Wbur News.  Apr 2021.  (US)

"How did you feel when you first realized that I was a boy-girl?" asks Hallel, now age 9.

I'm a teen who is nonbinary:  Here’s what I wish parents would know about gender

By Rosen P.  Parents Magazine online.  May 28, 2020.

”In this week's 'Teen Talk' column, a nonbinary teen shares what they want parents to understand about their experience with gender identity.”

​‘It’s how I feel. It’s not how you feel’: Four teens explain why they reject the gender binary
“The first time someone used my pronouns, I almost cried”
By Adrienne Matei. Illustrations by Agata Nowicka. June 2020. (US)
“A growing number of US kids are rejecting traditional gender identities in favor of being non-binary, but many feel misunderstood and face prejudice.”

 

Living in the world as a nonbinary person

By Meaghan Ray. Let’s Talk Gender Podcast. Season 2, Episode 7. Oct 2021

“This episode is about living in the world as a nonbinary person including what ‘passing’ means for nonbinary people, navigating public washrooms, going to the gym, and how a nonbinary perspective can influence how you interpret other aspects of society.“

Making a mistake with someone’s name or pronouns

By Sarah Kennedy Coaching.

“When someone makes a name change or pronoun, it is a gift to be given the new ones. You have been entrusted with a piece of themselves so it is not to be taken lightly. Yet we are human and our brains love to work on autopilot. So they will make mistakes now and again. How we handle these mistakes is important.”

Mother says the hardest part of having a non-binary child is the ’emotional labour’ of dealing with other people’s ignorance

By Emma Powys Maurice. Pink News. Jun 9, 2020.

“A mother of a non-binary child has spoken of the pushback she’s received from friends and family who cannot bring themselves to accept her child’s gender identity. Writing in The New York Times, Sandy Jorgenson shared her journey parenting M, now seven, who uses gender-neutral pronouns.”

Nonbinary identities and labels

By Meaghan Ray. Let’s Talk Gender Podcast. Season 2, Episode 1. Oct 2021.  (Alberta)

“To start off Season 2, I will be talking about nonbinary identities and labels. We talk about this, in Season 1: Episode 1: Language and Labels, but this time I’ll focus specifically on non-binary identities and labels. “

 

Parenting and supporting your non-binary childBy Pride & Joy Foundation. Blog post. 2021. (US)

 

A quick & easy guide to they/them pronouns
By Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson. 2018. Book.  (US)
“A quick, easy and important educational comic guide to using gender-neutral pronouns.

"Archie, a snarky genderqueer artist, is tired of people not understanding gender neutral pronouns. Tristan, a cisgender dude, is looking for an easy way to introduce gender neutral pronouns to his increasingly diverse workplace. The longtime best friends team up in this short and fun comic guide that explains what pronouns are, why they matter, and how to use them. They also include what to do if you make a mistake, and some tips-and-tricks for those who identify outside of the binary to keep themselves safe in this binary-centric world. A quick and easy resource for people who use they/them pronouns, and people who want to learn more!"

A great, simple look at the importance of using correct pronouns; extremely accessible to those for whom gender-neutral language is a new concept.” –– School Library Journal (starred review)
2018 Chicago Public Library Best Books of the Year – Teen Nonfiction.

Publishers Weekly Favorite Reads of 2018.

Autostraddle 20 Best LGBTQ Graphic Novels of 2018.
 

Raising Ollie: How my nonbinary art-nerd kid changed (nearly) everything I know

By Tom Rademacher. Book.  Oct 2021.  (US)

"Raising Ollie is dad Tom Rademacher’s story (really, many stories) of that eventful and sometimes painful school year, parenting Ollie and relearning every day what it means to be a father and teacher. As Ollie—who is nonbinary and uses they/them pronouns, and prefers art to athletics, vegetables to cake, and animals to most humans — flourishes in their new school, Rademacher is making an eye-opening adjustment to a new school of his own, one that’s whiter and more suburban than anywhere he has previously taught, with a history of racial tension that he tries to address and navigate. 

    While Ollie is learning to code, 3D model, animate, speak Japanese, and finally feel comfortable at school, Rademacher increasingly sees how his own educational struggles, anxieties, and childhood upbringing are reflected in his teaching, writing, and parenting, as well as in Ollie’s experience. And with this story of one anything-but-academic year of inquiry and wonder, doubt and revelation, he shows us how raising a kid changes everything—and how much raising a kid like Ollie can teach us about who we are and what we’re doing in the world."

Resources

By Meaghan Ray. Purple and Green and the Life In Between blog.  (Alberta)

“The following are a list of resources that I have found useful during my husband’s transition (FTM), during my own gender identity exploration process (non-binary/genderqueer), and during pregnancy and parenting. I will keep updating it as I find more..”

Resources for parents of trans youth

TransPulse Project. (NOTE: 2012 info)

​Resources for friends and family of nonbinary people
On LifeOutsideTheBinary website. US-based but lots of useful info.

Respecting a Nonbinary Youth’s Name and Pronouns Can Be Life-Saving

This simple act can make a significant impact on their mental health, says The Trevor Project

By Sam Manzella. Jul 2021.

​So your child is non-binary: A guide for parents (US)

Life Outside the Binary. (2014?)
 

Trans wisdom: The power of community

“Community has experiencial knowledge”

By Meaghan Ray. Purple and Green and the Life In Between blog post. Apr 2021.  (Alberta)

“Many things in life, including transitioning, are difficult, complex, and not well understood by the general public. Navigating these experiences is difficult in part because there is so little information available about what to expect, what to avoid, and what resources are available and helpful.

   Communities are full of people who have gone there before you. They have way more knowledge and information that is tried, tested, and true than any professional or google search can provide. The bigger the community, the wider the range of experiences and suggestions you will find and the more likely you will find something that works for you.”

Understanding non-binary people: How to be respectful and supportive
National Center for Transgender Equality. October 2018. (US)

 

What a non-binary person looks like

“I need to clarify something, because people still seem confused about this”

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog.  Feb 2020.

What does it mean to be transgender?

By Sarah Kennedy Coaching.

“Humans are mean making machines. Our brains are wired for safety and seeking clarity. In order to find that safety, our brains will assign meaning where it isn’t necessarily there. By generating meaning, we create a sense of certainty and comfort. So let’s dive in to see what meaning is real versus the meaning that we may be self generating about the word transgender.“

What does it mean to identify as nonbinary?

Written by Mere Abrams, LCSW.  Medically reviewed by Janet Brito, Ph.D., LCSW, CST. Healthline. Updated Dec 2019.   (US)
 

What’s in a name?

By Clio Hartzer. Being’ Enby blog. Nov 2020.

“There is little risk in using the names our parents have given us. We do not claim any personal ownership in those names. But when we choose our own names, we have more personal investment in them.  Our parents name our bodies. We name our souls.“

Young people are taking control over their gender identity! New research examines diversity of nonbinary youth

By Madeleine Carlisle. Time Magazine online. July 12, 2021.

“Ahead of International Nonbinary People’s Day on July 14, new research released Monday by the LGBTQ mental health nonprofit the Trevor Project found that over one in four (26%) LGBTQ youth identified as nonbinary. An additional 20% said they are not sure or are questioning whether they identify as nonbinary.“

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BOOKS & DOCUMENTS

CHILDREN'S BOOKS

Charlie’s best work yet

By Ris iRAWniQ Anderson. Feb 2021. (US)

“Charlie is a fluid 5th grader whom absolutely loves art! As the school talent show approaches, she navigates bullying, newfound friendship, and self-empowerment all while preparing for her best creation yet.”

Ris iRAWniQ Anderson (RAW), is the author of Charlie’s Best Work Yet, a beautifully illustrated children’s book about an artistic, androgynous grade school girl, who thanks to a fellow student, discovers and then finds strength in her newfound hero, Grace Jones. RAW is a non-binary masculine-identified author, alternative musician, voice over artist and actor and “momma to my 12-year-old shy, yet brilliant boy.” They are based in Los Angeles. More about iRAWniQ here. @irawniq

From the stars in the sky to the fish in the sea
By Kai Cheng Thom. 2017
“A magical gender variant child brings transformation and change to the world around them thanks to their mother’s enduring love.
  In the magical time between night and day, when both the sun and the moon are in the sky, a child is born in a little blue house on a hill. And Miu Lan is not just any child, but one who can change into any shape they can imagine. The only problem is they can’t decide what to be: a boy or a girl? A bird or a fish? A flower or a shooting star? At school, though, they must endure inquisitive looks and difficult questions from the other children, and have trouble finding friends who will accept them for who they are.

    But they find comfort in the loving arms of their mother, who always offers them the same loving refrain: “whatever you dream of / i believe you can be / from the stars in the sky to the fish in the sea. In this captivating, beautifully imagined picture book about gender, identity, and the acceptance of the differences between us, Miu Lan faces many questions about who they are and who they may be. But one thing’s for sure: no matter who this child becomes, their mother will love them just the same”.
 

A house for everyone: A story to help children learn about gender identity and gender expression
By Jo Hirst. 2018. For all ages.
“At lunchtime, all of Tom’s friends gather at school to work together building their house. Each one of them has a special job to do, and each one of them has a different way of expressing their gender identity.
  Jackson is a boy who likes to wear dresses. Ivy is a girl who likes her hair cut really short. Alex doesn’t feel like ‘just’ a boy, or ‘just’ a girl. They are all the same, they are all different – but they are all friends. A very simple story that challenges gender stereotypes and shows 4 to 8 year olds that it is OK to be yourself. An engaging story that is more than just an educational tool; this book will assist parents and teachers in giving children the space to explore the full spectrum of gender diversity and will show children the many ways they can express their gender in a truly positive light.“

 

It feels good to be yourself: A book about gender identity
By Theresa Thorn. 2019
“A picture book that introduces the concept of gender identity to the youngest reader from writer Theresa Thorn and illustrator Noah Grigni.
  Some people are boys. Some people are girls. Some people are both, neither, or somewhere in between.
  This sweet, straightforward exploration of gender identity will give children a fuller understanding of themselves and others. With child-friendly language and vibrant art, It Feels Good to Be Yourself provides young readers and parents alike with the vocabulary to discuss this important topic with sensitivity.”

 

​A kids book about being non-binary

By Hunter Chinn-Raicht. The Gender Cool Project, Portland OR.  June 2021. Ages 5+.

"What does being non-binary mean? For some people, the question and its answer may be new or a little confusing. It’s okay to not know what it means! That’s where all good conversations start. The journey to understanding starts with an open mind and an open heart."

​Neither
By Airlie Anderson. 2018
“In this colorful and touching story that celebrates what makes each of us unique, a little creature that’s not quite a bird and not quite a bunny–it’s “neither”–searches for a place to fit in. In the Land of This and That, there are only two kinds: blue bunnies and yellow birds. But one day a funny green egg hatches, and a little creature that’s not quite a bird and not quite a bunny pops out. It’s neither! Neither tries hard to fit in, but its bird legs aren’t good for jumping like the other bunnies, and its fluffy tail isn’t good for flapping like the other birds. It sets out to find a new home and discovers a very different place, one with endless colors and shapes and creatures of all kinds. But when a blue bunny and a yellow bird with some hidden differences of their own arrive, it’s up to Neitherto decide if they are welcome in the Land of All.

    This colorful, simple, and touching story promotes diversity and offers a valuable lesson to the youngest of audiences: it is our differences that unite us.”
 

Same: A story of change
By Alexandra Jones, 2019
“This is an endearing story of a small parrotfish who doesn’t feel right in her fins. She goes on a journey to discover her true self, meeting all sorts of species along the way. The sea creatures that come into her life during this journey help her to understand that everyone is different and that it is what is in her heart that makes her extraordinary. This is a story of acceptance of self as well as others, one that encourages each person to find their true colour and see the beauty in those around them.”
Author’s note: This book is written in collaboration with the illustrator, my father. I am an early childhood educator who hopes to spread love and acceptance to young children around the world. My father is an artist who feels passionately about helping children understand and accept each other’s unique qualities. We hope for our story to be heard and shared among children and families who see the joy and light in people the way we do!

 

Sparkle boy
By Leslea Newman. 2017
“Three-year-old Casey wants what his older sister, Jessie, has–a shimmery skirt, glittery painted nails, and a sparkly bracelet–but Jessie does not approve. After two boys tease Casey about his appearance, Jessie evolves to a place of acceptance and celebration of her gender creative younger brother.“

 

They, she, he easy as ABC
By Maya Christina Gonzalez. 2020
“Inclusive pronouns are learned alongside the alphabet in this joyously illustrated take on the classic ABC book. They, She, He easy as ABC shows that including everyone is all part of the dance. It’s easy. It’s fundamental. As the dance begins the kids proclaim, 'No one left out and everyone free,' in a sing-song rhyme about inclusion. This sets the stage for readers to meet 26 kids showing us their dance moves.
      Ari loves to arabesque.

      They hold their pose with ease.
     Brody is a break dancer.

      Brody loves to freeze.

Fast-paced rhyming keeps the flow of text upbeat and rhythmic, and naturally models how to use a wide range of pronouns. There’s no room for stereotypes on THIS dance floor with spirited imagery that keeps names, clothes, hair and behavior fresh and diverse. The combination creates a playful and effortless practice to expand ideas about gender while learning the alphabet and makes being inclusive as easy as A-B-C. This book continues the work started in They She He Me: Free to Be!, also by Maya & Matthew, and what School Library Journal called 'a gorgeous and much-needed picture book about pronouns and gender fluidity.' Both books provide a way to build on gender inclusive practices, and help interrupt the formalization of gender stereotypes and assumptions.“
 

They she he me: Free to be!
By Maya Christina Gonzalez. 2017
“How do you daily confirm and celebrate gender fluidity when the ‘he’ and ‘she’ binary is so prevalent in EVERYTHING, everywhere, all the time!? Pronouns serve as a familiar starting point for kids and grown-ups to expand ideas about gender and celebrate personal expression with fun imagery that provides a place to meet and play.
  Award winning children’s book author and artist Maya Gonzalez is joined by her partner, Matthew, in their first children’s book together. With virtually no reflection for different gender presentations in children’s books available, together they created a book to do just that. They She He Me, Free to Be shows many gender presentations under each pronoun and invites even more. A go-to place to help keep the conversations alive, break down assumptions of who is “she” or “he” and expand beyond the binary to include “they” and more. The back offers a playful narrative about pronouns, inviting kids to know themselves inside and out, claim the pronouns that express the spirit of who they are and respect that in others. Also included is some discussion for grown-ups on how to hold a supportive space for kids (and for themselves).“

 

What Riley wore
By Elana K. Arnold. 2019
“Gender-creative Riley knows just what to wear for every occasion during a busy week with family and friends in this sweet and timely picture book from Elana K. Arnold and Linda Davick. Riley wears whatever clothes feel right each day. On Monday, Riley feels shy and wears a bunny costume to school. On Tuesday, a scary trip to the dentist calls for a super hero cape. For a trip out with Otto and Oma, a ball gown is the perfect outfit. This charming picture book is a gentle exploration of self-expression and source of encouragement for being true to oneself despite the expectations of others.”

 

You be you! The kid’s guide to gender, sexuality and family

By Jonathan Branfman. 2019. Ages 7-11.
“This is an illustrated children’s book for ages 7-11 that makes gender identity, sexual orientation and family diversity easy to explain to children. Throughout the book kids learn that there are many kinds of people in the world and that diversity is something to be celebrated. It covers gender, romantic orientation, discrimination, intersectionality, privilege, and how to stand up for what’s right. With charming illustrations, clear explanations, and short sections that can be dipped in and out of, this book helps children think about how to create a kinder, more tolerant world.”

Moonbeam Children’s Book Awards Gold Medal Winner

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ADULT BOOKS

The gender creative child: Pathways for nurturing and supporting children who live outside gender boxes
By Diane Ehrensaft.  2016.  (US)
“From a leading US authority on a subject more timely than ever—an up-to-date, all-in-one resource on gender-nonconforming children and adolescents.
In her groundbreaking first book, Gender Born, Gender Made, Dr. Diane Ehrensaft coined the term gender creative to describe children whose unique gender expression or sense of identity is not defined by a checkbox on their birth certificate. Now, with The Gender Creative Child, she returns to guide parents and professionals through the rapidly changing cultural, medical, and legal landscape of gender and identity. In this up-to-date, comprehensive resource, Dr. Ehrensaft explains the interconnected effects of biology, nurture, and culture to explore why gender can be fluid, rather than binary. As an advocate for the gender affirmative model and with the expertise she has gained over three decades of pioneering work with children and families, she encourages caregivers to listen to each child, learn their particular needs, and support their quest for a true gender self. The Gender Creative Child unlocks the door to a gender-expansive world, revealing pathways for positive change in our schools, our communities, and the world.”

Gender outlaw: On men, women, and the rest of us
By Kate Bornstein. 2016.
“I know I’m not a man . . . and I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m probably not a woman, either. . . . . The trouble is, we’re living in a world that insists we be one or the other.  With these words, Kate Bornstein ushers readers on a funny, fearless, and wonderfully scenic journey across the terrains of gender and identity. On one level, Gender Outlaw details Bornstein’s transformation from heterosexual male to lesbian woman, from a one-time IBM salesperson to a playwright and performance artist. But this particular coming-of-age story is also a provocative investigation into our notions of male and female, from a self-described nonbinary transfeminine diesel femme dyke who never stops questioning our cultural assumptions. Gender Outlaw was decades ahead of its time when it was first published in 1994. Now, some twenty-odd years later, this book stands as both a classic and a still-revolutionary work—one that continues to push us gently but profoundly to the furthest borders of the gender frontier.”


How to be you: Stop trying to be someone else and start living your life
By Jeffrey Marsh. Aug 2016.  (US)
"Too short. Too weird. Too quiet. Not true. Let Internet superstar Jeffrey Marsh help you end those negative thoughts and discover how wonderful you are. An interactive experience, How to Be You invites you to make the book your own through activities such as coloring in charts, answering questions about how you do the things you do, and discovering patterns in your life that may be holding you back. Through Jeffrey's own story of 'growing up fabulous in a small farming town' -- along with the stories of hero/ines who have transcended the stereotypes of race, age, and gender -- you will discover that you are not alone. Learn to deepen your relationship with yourself, boost your self-esteem and self-worth, and find the courage to take a leap that will change your life.
Jeffrey Marsh’s spiritual and inclusive messages have received over 400 million views on social media. Jeffrey is a viral TikTok and Instagram star. Jeffrey is the first openly nonbinary public figure to be interviewed on national television, for Unfiltered. Jeffrey was also the first nonbinary author to be offered a book deal with any 'Big 5' publisher, at Penguin Random House. Jeffrey’s bestselling Buddhist self-esteem guide How To Be You, is an innovative, category-non-conforming work that combines memoir, workbook, and spiritual advice. How To Be You topped Oprah's Gratitude Meter and was named Excellent Book of the Year by TED-Ed. In 2019, How To Be You was re-issued as a Barnes & Noble Proprietary Edition. Jeffrey has been a student and teacher of Zen for over twenty years."

How to understand your gender: A practical guide for exploring who you are

By Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker.  2017.

"Have you ever questioned your own gender identity? Do you know somebody who is transgender or who identifies as non-binary? Do you ever feel confused when people talk about gender diversity?
  This down-to-earth guide is for anybody who wants to know more about gender, from its biology, history and sociology, to how it plays a role in our relationships and interactions with family, friends, partners and strangers. It looks at practical ways people can express their own gender, and will help you to understand people whose gender might be different from your own. With activities and points for reflection throughout, this book will help people of all genders engage with gender diversity and explore the ideas in the book in relation to their own lived experiences."

"For anyone who's ever wished they had a smart, kind, friend with whom they could calmly and safely discuss gender issues: this most excellent book is that kind of friend''. - Kate Bornstein, author of Gender Outlaw

In their shoes: Navigating non-binary life

By Jamie Windust.  Book.  Oct 2020.   (UK)

"There is no one way to be non-binary, and that's truthfully one of the best things about it. It's an identity that is yours to shape.
"Combining light-hearted anecdotes with their own hard-won wisdom, Jamie Windust explores everything from fashion, dating, relationships and family, through to mental health, work and future key debates. From trying on clothes in secret to iconic looks, first dates to polyamorous liaisons, passports to pronouns, Jamie shows you how to navigate the world and your evolving identity in every type of situation.
  Frank, funny, and brilliantly feisty, this must-read book is a call to arms for non-binary self-acceptance, self-appreciation and self-celebration."

Jamie Windust is an award-winning non-binary writer, public speaker and model from London. They have written for The Independent, Gay Times, British GQ, Cosmopolitan and INTO More, and were named as one of London''s most influential people, in the story telling category, by the Evening Standard. In Their Shoes is their first book.

Life isn't binary: On being both, beyond, and in-between

By Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker.  2019.    (US)

"Much of society's thinking operates in a highly rigid and binary manner; something is good or bad, right or wrong, a success or a failure, and so on. Challenging this limited way of thinking, this ground-breaking book looks at how non-binary methods of thought can be applied to all aspects of life, and offer new and greater ways of understanding ourselves and how we relate to others.
  Using bisexual and non-binary gender experiences as a starting point, this book addresses the key issues with binary thinking regarding our relationships, bodies, emotions, well-being and our sense of identity and sets out a range of practices which may help us to think in more non-binary, both/and, or uncertain ways.
  A truly original and insightful piece, this guide encourages reflection on how we view and understand the world we live in and how we all bend, blur or break society's binary codes.

Alex Iantaffi is an internationally recognized independent scholar, speaker and writer on issues of gender, disability, sexuality and mental health. They are also a licensed marriage and family therapist, sex therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner and supervisor.

   Meg-John Barker is a writer, therapist, and activist-academic specialising in sex, gender and relationships. They are a senior lecturer in psychology at the Open University. @megjohnbarker on Twitter."

 

Non-binary, gender fluid & gender expansive youth: FAQ for parents & guardians

Human Rights Campaign (HRC),    (US)

Non-binary lives: An anthology of intersecting identities

Editor Jo Twist, Meg-john Barker and Kat Gupta.  April 21, 2020

"What does it mean to be non-binary in the 21st Century?
Our gender identity is impacted by our personal histories; the cultures, communities and countries we are born into; and the places we go and the people we meet. But the representation of contemporary non-binary identities has been limited, until now.

  Pushing the narrative around non-binary identities further than ever before, this powerful collection of essays represents the breadth of non-binary lives, across the boundaries of race, class, age, sexuality, faith and more.
  Leading non-binary people share stories of their intersecting lives; how it feels to be non-binary and neurodiverse, the challenges of being a non-binary pregnant person, what it means to be non-binary within the Quaker community, the joy of reaching gender euphoria. This thought-provoking anthology shows that there is no right or wrong way to be non-binary.”

2021 LAMBDA LITERARY AWARD FINALIST // An IndyBest's Best Book Buy 2020
''Essential reading for anyone wishing to learn more about the wonderful diversity of humans.'' - The Independent

 
A quick & easy guide to they/them pronouns
By Archie Bongiovanni and Tristan Jimerson. 2018. (US)
“Archie, a snarky genderqueer artist, is tired of people not understanding gender neutral pronouns. Tristan, a cisgender dude, is looking for an easy way to introduce gender neutral pronouns to his increasingly diverse workplace. The longtime best friends team up in this short and fun comic guide that explains what pronouns are, why they matter, and how to use them. They also include what to do if you make a mistake, and some tips-and-tricks for those who identify outside of the binary to keep themselves safe in this binary-centric world. A quick and easy resource for people who use they/them pronouns, and people who want to learn more!

A quick, easy and important educational comic guide to using gender-neutral pronouns.
A great, simple look at the importance of using correct pronouns; extremely accessible to those for whom gender-neutral language is a new concept.” –– School Library Journal (starred review)
2018 Chicago Public Library Best Books of the Year – Teen Nonfiction. Publishers Weekly Favorite Reads of 2018. Autostraddle 20 Best LGBTQ Graphic Novels of 2018

Click for: Chapters "bundle pack" of 5 copies to give to friends & family.

Raising them: Our adventure in gender creative parenting
By Kyl Myers. 2020. (US)
What did you have? A boy or a girl?” Kyl and Brent imagined it would be years before their child would identify with a gender. Until then…
“As a first-time parent, Kyl Myers had one aspect dialed in from the start: not being beholden to the boy-girl binary, disparities, or stereotypes from the day a child is born. With no wish to eliminate gender but rather gender discrimination, Kyl and her husband, Brent, ventured off on a parenting path less traveled. Raising a confident, compassionate, and self-aware person was all that mattered.

  In this illuminating memoir, Kyl delivers a liberating portrait of a family’s choice to dismantle the long-accepted and often-harmful social construct of what it means to be assigned a gender from birth.

    As a sociologist, Kyl explores the science of gender and sex and the adulthood gender inequities that start in childhood. As a loving parent, Kyl shares the joy of watching an amazing child named Zoomer develop their own agency to grow happily and healthily toward their own gender identity and expression.
  Candid and surprising, Raising Them is an inspiration to parents and to anyone open to understanding the limitless possibilities of being yourself.”

Reflective workbook for parents and families of transgender and non-binary children
By D.M. Maynard. Aug 2020. (US)
“When a child goes through transition, the dynamics of the family unit can start to shift. It is not uncommon for one family member to feel one way about the transition, while another may feel quite differently. This innovative workbook discusses the unique needs of parents and families as they navigate their child”s gender exploration. Providing a safe space for them to work through their own uncertainties and necessities, it gives specifically tailored guidance and support, with sections on school life, language and terminology, finding a therapist, possible grief, social/medical intervention options and more. Personal anecdotes from parents and other family members offer insight and understanding, alongside reflective activities, quizzes and positive affirmations throughout.”

 

The trans self-care workbook: A coloring book and journal for trans and non-binary people
By Theo Lorenz. 2020.
“If you’re transgender, non-binary, or any other gender under the wide and wonderful trans umbrella, this book is for you. A creative journal and workbook with a difference, this book combines coloring pages celebrating trans identity, beauty and relationships, with practical advice, journaling prompts and space for reflection to promote self-affirmation and wellbeing. Drawing on CBT and mindfulness techniques, the book covers topics including body positivity and neutrality, coming out, euphoria and dysphoria, building new friendships and navigating relationships with your friends and family, and is the go-to resource for anybody who has ever felt the pressure to conform to a singular definition or narrative. Theo Nicole Lorenz’s heart-warming and empowering illustrations of trans people will provide reassurance that you are never alone, and are a reminder to always treat yourself kindly.”

 

Transgender and non-binary people FAQ

Human Rights Campaign.   (US)

Includes sections on: Transgender and non-binary people 101; Understanding gender identity; Myths & misconceptions; Supporting transgender and non-binary people.

"Transgender and non-binary people come from all walks of life. ... We are parents, siblings and kids. We are your coworkers, your neighbors and your friends. We are 7-year-old children and 70-year-old grandparents. We are a diverse community, representing all racial and ethnic backgrounds, as well as all faith traditions. As you read this FAQ, we hope you learn more about our wonderful community and join us in supporting transgender and non-binary people. You can find HRC’s full list of transgender and non-binary health, employment, family and coming out resources here."

Transgender health: A practitioner’s guide to binary and non-binary trans patient care
By Benjamin Vincent. 2018. (US)
“The number of people coming out as transgender continues to rise, and this book shows healthcare and medical practitioners how to deliver excellent primary and secondary care to gender diverse patients. This guide provides accessible and practical advice on tailoring the social and ethical aspects of practice to the needs of each individual. Beyond setting out how clinical procedures should work for gender reassignment, it explains how to use language and pronouns in a respectful way, provides information on transgender services and resources, and offers insights into the challenges commonly faced by transgender people in both medical and social contexts. Based on cutting edge research and the lived experience of the author as a non-binary person, this is essential reading for all those working to meet the needs of transgender people in healthcare settings.”

 

The transgender teen: A handbook for parents and professionals supporting transgender and non-binary teens
By Stephanie A. Brill. 2016.  (US)
” Is it just a phase, a fad, or a real issue with your teen? This comprehensive guidebook explores the unique challenges that thousands of families face every day raising a teenager who may be transgender, gender-variant or gender-fluid. Covering extensive research and with many personal interviews, as well as years of experience working in the field, the author covers pressing concerns relating to physical and emotional development, social and school pressures, medical options, and family communications. Learn how parents can advocate for their children, find acceptable colleges and career paths, and raise their gender variant or transgender adolescent with love and compassion.”

 

Transitions of the heart: Stories of love, struggle and acceptance by mothers of transgender and gender variant children
by Rachel Pepper. 2012.(US)
Transitions of the Heart is the first collection to ever invite mothers of transgender and gender variant children of all ages to tell their own stories about their child’s gender transition. Often 'transitioning' socially and emotionally alongside their child but rarely given a voice in the experience, mothers hold the key to familial and societal understanding of gender difference. Sharing stories of love, struggle, and acceptance, this collection of mother’s voices, representing a diversity of backgrounds and sexual orientations, affirms the experience of those who have raised and are currently raising transgender and gender variant children between the ages of 5-50.

    Edited by Rachel Pepper, a gender specialist and co-author of the acclaimed book The Transgender Child, Transitions of the Heart will prove an invaluable resource for parents coming to terms with a child’s gender variance or transition.”

What's the T?  The  guide to all things trans and/or nonbinary

By Juno Dawson.  Jun 2022.     (UK)

"Discover what it means to be a young transgender and/or non-binary person in the twenty-first century in this candid and funny guide for teens from the bestselling author of This Book is Gay.

In What's the T? Stonewall ambassador and bestselling author Juno Dawson is back again, this time with everything you've wanted to know about labels and identities and offering uncensored advice on coming out, sex, and relationships with her trademark humor and lightness of touch. It is informative, helpful, optimistic, and funny but with a good dose of reality and some of the things that can downright suck too.

The companion title to the groundbreaking This Book Is Gay, What's the T? tackles the complex realities of growing up trans with honesty and humor and is joyfully illustrated by gender non-conforming artist Soofiya.

This book is for:

  • Anyone with questions

  • Parents of trans and/or non-binary kids

  • Educators looking for advice about the transgender community"

Juno Dawson is the international bestselling author of fiction and nonfiction for young adults. She is a columnist for Attitude magazine and a key LGBTQ+ activist with the charity Stonewall. A former teacher specializing in behavior studies, Juno now writes full time and lives in Brighton, England.

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VIDEOS, TED TALKS, PODCASTS,

TV, FILM, DOCUMENTARIES

Ash and Grace Space

By Ash Hardell. YouTube vlogger. 2019->

More adult content and topics. Including surgeries.

https://www.youtube.com/c/AshAndGraceSPACE/channels

Ash Hardell

Ash is a great non-binary vlogger.  Posted up to 2020. Covers a lot of topics of interest to non-binary people.
Click to go to: 

YouTube Channel.  ​Second YouTube Channel (Ash & Grace).

Twitter.​    Tumblr.   Instagram: ashhardell

Ashley’s Wylde Life
Ashley Wylde’s YouTube channel. (from Canada)
Ashley Wylde is a queer and gender nonbinary writer, activist, and travel enthusiast. Wylde publishes YouTube videos weekly on her channel Ashley’s Wylde Life, and is the creator of The Gender Tag Project, a project exploring the complex ideas of sex, gender roles, gender identity, and gender expression, which has inspired over 1,000 individual videos responses.
(Ashley’s) work on The Gender Tag Project: “Gender, sexuality, identity and personal growth. I share my experiences as a non binary trans adult, explain concepts related to being transgender, and talk about the lessons I learn as I move through the world. I love that I am trans, and am proud to be a (reasonably) well-adjusted non binary adult human being. Other topics that are close to my heart are disability justice, racial equality, and the eradication of ableism, racism, misogyny, homophobia, and transphobia. I currently live in Canada with my wonderful partner and our three dogs.”

Baptism

By Rah Foard (they/them).  Documentary. Jan 2021.

"Baptism, the debut documentary from filmmaker Rah Foard...  An intimate self-portrait about Foard's journey to self love, Baptism is more than a story about coming of age, it is story about fully coming of self. Like Foard themself, it is endearing and honest, all while exhibiting the same quiet strength required to unabashedly say: 'this is who I am.' "

Being non binary in the bathroom (and change rooms)
By Ashley Wylde. Oct 2016 (YouTube video)
“This week I tell another story about being misgendered in public, and explain what came up for me about bathrooms and changing rooms.”

 

Beyond male, female and transgender: A discussion of non-binary gender identities Hosted by Gender Spectrum. YouTube video.   (US)
“Gender Spectrum hosted a live broadcast discussion to help parents and family members to gain some understanding around when a loved one says they are genderqueer, agender, bigender, non-binary, or other gender identities.”

 

​Boy

Short film. June 2014.

"16-year old Emilie has always been a boy inside."

Winner of:  the Jury Prize at Seoul International Youth Film Festival;  the Audience Award and Jury Award at The Next Film Festival;  the Audience Choice Award at Melbourne Queer Film Festival for Best International Short;  Best International Short Film at Fresh Film Festival.

Calling my mom to tell her I'm trans

By Ash Hardell.  Feb 2018. YouTube vlog.

“Explaining a non binary identity to a parent can be a scary and tricky task. People as me all the time for advice on the matter, but until recently I didn't even know how to go about this myself! Just a couple months ago I called my mom to tell her I'm trans. Today I have the privilege of sharing that phone call with you.”

 

​A conversation between a mother and her nonbinary child

By Shira. March 2021

Gender as a performance
By Ali Hannon. Ted Talk.  Jan 2018.  (UK)

 

​HELP! I’m confused about my gender
By Ashley Wylde. Jun 2016 (YouTube video)
“What do you do when you’re thinking, ‘I’m confused about my gender.’ When it comes to questioning your gender, doubts are about the most natural thing that could ever happen. Even if you’re feeling confused, it is okay to continue to question and explore your gender. Gender is confusing! You are doing a great job! Watch this video for advice about navigating these inevitable doubts!”

 

Jeffery Marsh

Non-binary video blogger on YouTube.

​Jeffrey is a non-binary person who lovingly acknowledges and supports the parents who support their non-binary children, and addresses many of the questions, comments and concerns around non-binary and gender fluid people in a very loving way.

Click for Jeffery's:   WebsiteList of videos. Book.

Living as a non-binary in a binary world
By Graysen Hall. TED Talk video. 2017
“A talk addressing the hardships and obstacles facing the day-to-day life of those who identify outside of the gender binary. Graysen Hall, a 23 year-old non-binary individual, sets out to promote awareness and educate their audience on some of the trials that the transgender community faces. Graysen Hall is a 23 year-old non-binary individual, who is in the process of completing a Masters degree at the UKC in the School of English. Their talk is based on their experiences of living as non-binary and the hardships that are part of that experience. Living under the transgender umbrella, they often feel that their identity is invalidated by others, often from within the transgender community. In today’s talk they aim to educate those who are not aware of non-binary genders and to promote awareness, acceptance and equality.”

Neither he, nor she, but me

By Hannah Fons. Ted Talk video.  2018.  (US)

“Hannah Fons focuses on gender identity as fluid, not fixed, and existing on a spectrum. Just as there are a multitude of ways to express one’s identity as a cisgender (i.e, not transgender) man or woman, there is not one way to be trans, to navigate a trans identity, or to conceive of trans people. Hannah Fons '19 was born in the cornfields of rural Iowa, and moved to New York City in 2000 to seek her fortune. She presently serves as Senior Editor at a small trade publishing company and is also a professional strength and conditioning coach at Five Points Academy in New York City. Hannah is a graduate student in the MSW program at Adelphi University's Manhattan Center, focusing on the care and concerns of LGBTQ youth in general, and transgender/gender-divergent youth in particular. Along with direct practice, she is also deeply interested in the psychospiritual history of Queer people, and exploring how mythology, folklore, and legend may be mobilized to empower Queer communities. In addition to her current work, she holds an MA in Sexuality and Gender Studies from the CUNY Graduate Center in NYC, and undergraduate degrees from the University of Iowa in Iowa City. Over the years, Hannah has also practiced multiple martial arts -- including muay thai, Brazilian jiujitsu, and capoeira -- and studied fashion at the Fashion Institute of Technology.”

​Non binary dysphoria explained
By Ashley Wylde. YouTube video. Aug 2016.
“As someone who experiences non binary dysphoria, I decided to answer some questions that I regularly get. Some non binary people do experience dysphoria, and some don’t. In this video I talk about whether or not I bind my chest, and how I feel about my period. In a video coming soon I will address questions about decided to/not to transition.”

A non-binary transition
By Sage Skyler. TED Talk video. 2019. (US) )
”Sage Skyler is a first year here at Connecticut College, where they are double majoring in English and East Asian Studies. They are out and proud, and spend a lot of their free time figuring out how to make interdisciplinary connections to queer studies. Sage Skyler is a first year here at Connecticut College, where they are double majoring in English and East Asian Studies. They are out and proud, and spend a lot of their free time figuring out how to make interdisciplinary connections to queer studies. They are hoping to eventually use their knowledge of creative writing and passion for representation to create works of Young Adult fiction that include the full spectrum of queer identities.”

Not a boy, not a girl

Four Corners. Journeyman Pictures. Film trailer. 2020.    (AUS)

Available on Video on Demand.

"From the moment expectant parents announce they're having a baby, the question is always asked: are you having a boy or a girl? But not everyone grows up feeling certain. Meet young Australians who do not identify as either male or female and hear their stories of growing up non-binary or gender diverse."

Thanks parents for being and doing good

Jeffery Marsh

Jeffery is a non-binary video blogger on YouTube.

​In this video, Jeffrey thanks parents for supporting their non-binary children. Jeffrey is a non-binary person who lovingly acknowledges and supports the parents who support their non-binary children, and addresses many of the questions, comments and concerns around non-binary and gender fluid people in a very loving way.

Click forWebsiteList of videos. Book.

They/them

Written and directed by Bo Beaufill. Short film. Jan 2020. (AUS)

Non-binary short film. Story of a student coming out.

​Watch this before you get top surgery w/ Ash Hardell

By Jackson Bird and Ash Hardell.  YouTube video. 2018

“What to pack, how to deal with post-surgical depression, how the process differs if you’re not on testosterone, and more things to consider when preparing for top surgery.” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9s3Ol...​ Video with Grace on Ash and Grace Space https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2l-Gv...

What does it mean to be non-binary?

CBC News: The National. June 29, 2021. Video interview. News story.

"Three Canadians outside the gender binary of male and female share their stories of becoming their authentic selves."

What is a nonbinary gender?

By Riley J. Dennis.  2017.

"A brief introduction to nonbinary genders -- told by a nonbinary person."

Book Riley suggests:  ABC’s of LGBT : https://www.amazon.com/dp/163353409X

"THING I FORGOT TO MENTION IN THE VIDEO: "nb" is short for nonbinary. Sometimes nb people are called "enby" or "enbies" for the way that "nb" is pronounced out loud. Example: Below are some awesome enbies you should follow."

Nb YouTubers:

Ash Hardell: https://www.youtube.com/user/HeyThere005

Nadia: https://www.youtube.com/user/StudioSp...

Agender Agenda: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0Br...

Queer As Cat: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoV4...

Ashley Wylde: https://www.youtube.com/user/AshleysW...

Gabriel Coppersan: https://www.youtube.com/direwolfgabe

Chandler Wilson: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3Hx...

Annie Elainey: https://www.youtube.com/user/theannie...

Milo Stewart: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCaWf...

Kaitlyn Alexander: https://www.youtube.com/realistically...

Other cool nb folks:

Naseem Jamnia: https://twitter.com/jamsternazzy

Siv Greyson: https://twitter.com/sivgreyson

Dan Khánh Duyên: https://twitter.com/vertigoxoxo

Matt Joseph Diaz: https://twitter.com/MattJosephDiaz 

What is non binary?
By Ashley Wylde. YouTube video. Aug 2016.
On Ashley’s YouTube Channel called Ashley’s Wylde Life.

 

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SUPPORT GROUPS & SITES for PARTNERS *

of TRANS & NON-BINARY PEOPLE

* See also the subgroup titled  "Partners & Transitioning" under the section titled "In the Trans Community".

Distinction Support. Supporting partners of transgender/non binary people. 

“Distinction is a support organisation started in 2014 and is a network made up of many supportive partners aimed at supporting other partners of Trans/Non-Binary people who want to support their partner. We give them a safe space to discuss and share personal feelings.”

 

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